January 9, 2009
After a well-deserved break for the holiday season, the fabnaija.com ladies are back. We have many plans for the new year and we intend to continue writing about Nigerian weddings in the U.S. and abroad.
We are starting this year with a discussion of maintaining priorities when planning a Nigerian wedding. It's very easy to get lost in all the details involved in wedding planning. Many people say the most important is for the couple to enjoy the day, but sometimes that's not the most important thing to a Nigerian couple.
Sometimes, the most important thing to you might be giving your mother the wedding of her dreams, or hosting your in-laws properly so no one feels slighted or it might even be to have the best, most glamorous wedding of the century.
Whatever your priorities are, it's important to actually know that they are your own priorities. There's nothing wrong with focusing on hosting your in-laws or showing off your family's wealth. Just make sure it's what you want and not what someone else wants.
Once you've decided what you want, check out our checklist,
http://www.fabnaija.com/wedding_article.phpto guide you through the whole wedding process. We think it's very important to have a wedding planner. You can also find wedding planners on our website,
www.fabnaija.com.
If you want a wedding filled with traditional details, it might be better to actually hire a wedding planner who is very familiar with Nigerian weddings.
You might have seen the wedding show on Style Network, "Whose Wedding Is It Anyway?" We say it does not have to be the bride's wedding or the groom's wedding. It may be your mother's wedding or your parents' wedding or even your wedding planner's wedding. Decide if you care enough to be bugged with dragging the right to the wedding, or if you are like me and you don't mind giving up control of your wedding to somebody else.
Sounds strange? But really, I know too many ladies who really don't care how their weddings turn out. I know there's a lot of pressure to care and make your wedding perfect, but if you really don't care, don't let anyone force you into planning details that you'd really not be bothered about. Instead PAY SOMEONE ELSE TO DO THE WORK FOR YOU!
If you are getting married this year, please consider contacting us to be part of our wedding series. We'd love to hear about your wedding plans and how you met your "boo" and all the other good stuff! E-mail
editor@fabnaija.com
Good luck!
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