They say all the good ones are taken. Mmmm. You said that last year but someone found a good one 3 weeks later so you're starting to wonder if it's you. Maybe just maybe they are running away from you. Not True. I considered making the topic of this blog "Where to find a good single man/woman? But that's not what you're searching for when you check google because fact is you want a Nigerian. You're Nigerian and you want one too. Some people don't care, but you do. Except you want him to be a little bit "Americanized."
Just a little but not to much. Hian. Dis tin is getting tougher. So you watch the accent, you watch the mannerisms, you watch whether she cooks and what she cooks because once again, you said you want her to be a bit Americanized...but not all the way (and someone has told you American girls don't cook for their men). Not even Rachael Ray with all her 30 minute throw downs can convince you otherwise. In fact, I just made your point anyway cause what kind of good meal takes 30minutes to make. Surely not your mama's Egusi soup that you're hoping this slightly Americanized girl can make.
But I digress, this is not about you, it's about where to find the ONE. Without much ado, we present some ways and places.
1) Online dating and dating services: eharmony, blackpeoplemeet, pof, africanlove, match.com You're rich....go ahead and pay someone to do the job for you. (as with all things that start online, be careful. Even dis my advice sef, careful as you take am)
2) Still online, join meetup.com. Join a group and meet someone.
3) Church/Mosque: to make this effective, do join a group or house fellowship in the church. Just showing up every sunday won't help with getting to know people. I should take my own advice. LOL
4) Volunteer: volunteer doing something that you love to do and if you want to strategize real well volunteer in an activity that tends to attract guys/girls. depend on which one you dey find
5) Good grocery store: Yes I said good. I'm trying to help you here. My focus is not on helping the store but on you. You can check out your local African food store. Hey if a guy seems like he's looking for the fufu. Feel free to show him where it is and ask who he'll be cooking for. If he says my wife sent me to get it....well what are you waiting for? Move On. If he says, "do you want to cook it for me?" Well you can work with him. If he says, "I'll be cooking for me and you." Well, I don't have to teach you everything now do I? :)
6) Tell your good friends to hook you up. Don't be shy. Go ahead
7) Visit Nigeria during christmas. Families are known to sometimes visit then and your prince(ss) may be doing the same. This involves quite a bit of cash and you must limit your expectations, if not your disappointment may be high if you don't meet anyone there. Plus there are other people doing the same so competition may be fierce. But you're the "ish," so why not.
8) Attend events and please stay till the party time
9) Join an organization that serves a smaller part of the Nigerian community in the country. Join a group for Ibos, for Akwa Ibom people, for Nigerian doctors, for lawyers, for Nurses. These groups are good for you anyway and they could also help you meet the ONE
10) Pray, be patient, but please say hi to guys/girls you may not even be interested in. Just enjoy your life
